Getting married soon and nervous about your wedding speech? Been so busy, that the big day is creeping up on you, with little time to prepare or think about it?
Well … you're not alone! For many grooms, their wedding speech is the first major public speaking event in their lives and so will naturally be nerve-wracking!
In the hectic run-up to a wedding it's often something that get’s left by the wayside …. but fear not … we’ve put together a few thoughts that will hopefully help relieve some of your anxiety, and get you kick-started.
First of all, to put your mind at rest, the groom’s speech is in many ways the easy one! There is less pressure on you to be funny or theatrical like the best man and there is a well-established basic structure to it (see below!). You are the main man and the audience will all be willing you to succeed
The overall tone of the groom’s speech is typically humble, positive, thankful, and genuine with a few humorous moments … you’ll be surprised by the laughter and even tears that you’ll receive even for a short, simple speech.
Everyone’s situation is different, and you should bring out your individual ‘colours’ to make your speech relevant to you and your guests, but we thought it would be useful to let you have the tried and tested basic structure to get you off to a flying start.
Groom’s Speech Basic Structure
- Thank your father-in-law (on behalf of you and your new wife) for welcoming you into his family, and for helping you put together such a wonderful wedding. It is likely you will be the last speaker, so you can also applaud his speech. Expect some traditional cheers and applause the first time you say “on behalf of me and my new wife"
- Thank the bride’s wider family for bringing up such an amazing and well-grounded woman and for hosting your wedding.
- Specifically thank both mums and present them with a nice bright bouquet of flowers
- Thank all other guests and anyone else involved in planning the wedding e.g. photographers, décor company, caterers, ushers, best man etc.
- Some heartfelt and well thought-out words on your new bride e.g. how gorgeous she looks, how you first met, how you proposed, how you feel about her etc. This is when you should expect some emotional moments from your bride, the crowd and even yourself!
- It is traditional to finish the speech with a toast to the bridesmaids
Some Final Groom’s speech tips
- Practice makes perfect – try reading out your wedding speech to a friend or family member. They can point out any obvious flaws, help you with your script, and guide you to a smooth delivery
- Slow down – nearly everyone makes the mistake of speaking too fast when they first start – your audience need time to let the words sink in. You will also come across more confident and relaxed
- Keep your script ready with large writing so you don’t have to squint when reading it
- Sometimes, it’s best not to read your script out word for word to create a more natural flow – try cue cards to make sure you stay on track but allowing you some freedom and flexibility
- Keep spare copies of your speech – give them to a reliable person to avoid any last minute panics should your version go astray!
- Have a drink if you feel nervous but no more than one!
- If you really want to smash it out of the park, try using a professional speech writer
Finally, remember to smile, relax, enjoy yourself and have fun!